Ways to Seduce a Man - What Does He Want to Hear?

In the first two articles of this series: Smell Right, or Fail Miserably! and Dress for Success, we discussed the importance of stimulating the senses of smell and sight to attract the man you want. Now it's time to discuss the third element in the seduction game. What does he need to hear to be seduced? <b>Humor:</b> Introducing humor is tricky but helps. Witty humor is best. Refrain from long jokes unless you're really good at telling them especially at the beginning of the date. Laughing is a good therapy and helps to break the ice and loosen both of you up. <b>Tone of Voice:</b> Your tone of voice should be warm and care-free. Try not to raise your voice, because it will ruin the mood. Don't speak under your breath either. It's annoying to have to be repeating yourself because he didn't hear you. <b>Eye contact:</b> Observe him while you're talking. If you notice that he starts fidgeting and looking away, he's either nervous or bored with the topic. Shifty-eyed people tend to cause distrust. Make eye contact as much as possible when he's talking to you. This will make him feel special. <b>A Little Vulnerability Goes a Long Way</b> I'm running the risk of sounding chauvanistic here, but men like to think that you want their protection. Strong, independent women tend to be a turn off for men. You can be strong and independent without having to remind him of it. He needs to have a sense of purpose and feel important for you. If you give off the impression that you don't need anyone's help, then what's his role in your life? (Being the henpecked husband?) <b>Forbidden topics</b> (The best ways to turn a man off!): -ex-boyfriends (any details about them) -other men (Come on! you're talking about his competition! He's supposed to be number one for you right now.) -penis size (yes, a lot of men are insecure about this) -obsessive conversation about diets (have him accept you as you are, not as you would like to be. A lot of men out there still prefer plump women, as opposed to bone racks) -details about your day at work (you're out to seduce him, remember? Would you feel seduced hearing about his day?) -clothes and accessories you are thinking of buying (this conversation goes down well with friends, but not with most men unless they're fashion designers) -forcing him to give you an honest opinion about what you're wearing (Believe me, if he likes what he sees, he will tell you straight out. Don't hound him for his opinions. Men don't like to have to tell a woman what looks best on them. They just limit their opinions to: 'you look great', or 'not bad'. Don't force an uncomfortable situation for the both of you.) -problems with your female friends. (men in general can't understand women's problems with other women any better than women can understand a man's obsession for sports or auto mechanics) <b>What Does He Want to Hear?/ Suggestions for conversation:</b> (make him the center of your attention) -You are unlike anyone I have ever met! (Great lead in. ...The rest is up to you!) -I accept you as you are (Don't say it straight out, use your imagination to tell him a few things you like about him. If he really likes you, he will most likely start telling you what he thinks of you) -you can introduce innocent hypothetical situations like: what would you do if you had all the money in the world?, What would be your perfect holiday? (Never: What would your mother say if she saw us now?) <b>If the Right Mood Is Set:</b> -fantasies including him. (only if he has earned your trust and you feel he will enjoy what he hears and maybe share some of his own fantasies with you) -"Let me tell you a little secret" will get his attention, especially if you tell him what would turn you on if he did it -this really spices up the evening. Make sure there's something in it for him. <b>Avoid Distractions:</b> Leave your cell phone at home or turn it off. Make a point of telling him that you've done so, to make him feel special. This way you also give him the subliminal message to do the same. This distraction can ruin an otherwise well-planned evening. And Most Importantly, <b>Be yourself!</b> The above points are just some general guidelines to help you -not a set of strict rules as every person is different. Make sure he gets to know the real you, so there are no surprizes later on. Yes, you may be risking not seeing him again, but do you really want to spend your life with someone who doesn't accept you as you are? <b>Tired of dating losers? How to Find the Man of your dreams How to Find the Man of your dreams</b>