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October 6, 2008

Love and Distance

When it comes to making a long distance relationship work there are several things that you should do and that you should not do. There are a lot of things that you need to do to make it work, but there some things that just make it hard. It’s hard to have a long distance relationship because you never know what they do in their spare time. They can’t always be on the phone with you and they can’t always be using their spare time focusing on you. So what are they doing? That’s the number one question and reason why most long distance relationships don’t work. For you to have a long distance relationship you have to be secure in the relationship and with yourself. You also have to make time for visits so that you can make the relationship keep going. For a relationship to work the couple has to be able to see and talk to each other. You also need to put time aside so that you can hold each other and spend real time with each other not through a videoconference. As for some of the things that you can do, you need to be able to make a good communication channel. The reasons why so many long distance relationships fail is because they don’t have the ability to communicate with each other on a daily basis. Like you may think that the telephone or cell phone is good enough, but as soon as they start missing your calls because they might be at work or at the store you begin to think they are doing something wrong. However, you need to mix your channels. You need to use things like the phone, instant messengers, emails, videoconference, and even the mail. Send them special messages, packages, keep all the romance going. There are many other things that you need to do, but communication is the most important. If you ever have any doubts or are tempted by another, then be open. Make sure that the other person knows exactly where you are coming from. Also, you need to meet each other now and then. Spend every other weekend together or catch up on your day offs. You need to spend quality time together to make this relationship work. You need to see each other to still feel that passion for each other. You may feel intense anticipation for the other and that’s what keeps the relationship going. You also need to find something that you both can do. You might want to have a game night where you play each other online. You need to be able to do something that is fun and will keep your bond strong. The most important thing that you need to do is surprise them. Bring them flowers and dinner in the middle of the week. Use your imagination to create a romantic and wonderful surprise. Surprises are what keeps the relationship still interesting. Send each other care gifts and packages of your favorite things. The worst thing that you can do in a long distance relationship is replace them and then pretend like nothing has changed. You cannot cheat in a long distance relationship just so you can have sex. If you truly love them sex does not matter. You should take this type of relationship so lightly as to even think that it’s not a real relationship. When you do something, ask yourself if you would do it if they lived 20 minutes away. Also, do not accuse them of anything. If you can keep your channels open, then you should be able to trust them. Also, talk about any negative things that you might be feeling. If you let the negative thought overtake the relationship, the relationship will die. When it comes to the relationship being long distance you have to think that it will only last as long as you want it to. If you honestly can not take being away from them then you need to ask yourself if you love them enough to move. If you do then move to be closer to them, however, if you don’t, then you might want to talk that out. Anything can be talked out and solved if you allow your partner to take the time to understand where you are coming from. If you put the time and energy into a relationship, you will find that your love will grow and it will be stronger than ever. Author has 16 years experence in marketing lighting products.Now successful Affiliate Marketer and Home business.Request you to come and see web


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