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June 30, 2008

The First Step In How To Hook Up With Women

If you want to hook up with women, you are going to have to talk to them. There is really no way of getting around it. Therefore, the first thing you need to conquer is your fear of talking to women. Going up to women you do not know and just starting a conversation can seem scary, but it is done everyday. And, I am going to let you in on a little secret of us women...ready? When you come up to us and talk to us, we are going to judge you (it's an unfortunate fact) severely. <b>Judgment Day</b> What type of judgment am I talking about? You see, when you come up and meet and talk to us women the very first time, how you handle it is always going to be the first thing we connect to you. If you come up and you are all nervous, voice wavering, and you seem like you are struggling to get a simple "hello" out, then we are going to perceive you as a mousy little guy with nothing to offer. In our minds, we are already screaming, "NEXT!" while we try to figure out the best way to get rid of you politely. One the other hand, if you come up and you are confident and nice (yes, too confident equals asshole to us) then we are going to perceive you as a man that know who he is, what he wants and how he is going to get it. That is sexy to us, and whether we want to admit it or not, you are already half way across the threshold of our mental blocking doorway, and we want to let you in. Now before you get all upset and start complaining that it is not fair, let me explain something to you. We can not help but act this way. It is sort of genetically programmed into us. It has been since the dawn of male and female relationships. As women, we are genetically programmed to look for a mate that can provide protection, create a livable environment, and we breed strong, healthy offspring. <b>Is That Dino-Steak Cooked Enough For You?</b> I think it is part of our system as a result of human instinct and survival. Consider the caveman days. If you were not a strong male that had a protective cave, could hunt and kill to provide food for me, and breed strong children who could survive the harsh world we lived in, then you would not be able to help us perpetuate the human race. Therefore we instinctively moved on to the next male that did fulfill all of our categories. It was selective to continue our species. So don't hate us for it. We are the whole reason you exists today! Fortunately for you today, to hook up with women doesn't require you have the ability to outrun beasts meaning to eat you and provide strong breeding material. But, it is still in the back of our minds. Now, though, we are not so worried about physical attributes or special hunting abilities. But you still have to be confident. No confidence, no game, nobody is going to "play" with you. <b>Emit Confidence Through Speaking</b> So the overall point here, is that if you want to hook up with women, you have to make them believe that you are confident. Since the first thing we get to know you by (after we check you out physically as you walk up to us...more about that latter) is your voice through conversation, you need to become comfortable enough to be able to talk to women you do not know with an air of confidence. If you think you have that, great, you are all set. But before you leave this article, how many times have you started a conversation with a woman and got anywhere with it? <b>Welcome Back</b> Listen, don't make this harder than it actually is. Like anything else, all you really need is practice. I can suggest some things to help you out. Let's jump right in. Got a mall in your neighborhood? If you do great, if not maybe a large grocery store? Go to a mall or a large grocery store and just start walking around and making contact with women. It does not matter if they are married or not (although I would not try with her man standing by, you're trying to learn confidence, not get your ass kicked). The exercise here is to start getting comfortable with talking to strange women. Depending on your confidence and your ability, you can start off where you feel comfortable. But, I am going to start from a beginning point. Just walk around the mall or the grocery store and make eye contact with every woman you can. If you can handle it, we're taking baby steps here, add a smile with each eye contact. You will know when you have this mastered, each woman will reward you with a smile and a look usually away from you and down toward the ground. If you can get this response out of most (were are talking about 75%) of the women, you are ready to move on. Now you are going to talk to each one. With the same eye contact and smile, now say "hello" or "hi" to each one of them. If you just can't bring yourself to do it today, make it another day. Do not brush off the power of this exercise. It seems silly, but it is building that confidence that we are going to judge you on so harshly! When you get to the point you can look a woman in the eyes, smile, and say something beyond hello, with the intent of striking up a conversation, you are ready to start trying it out in the bars, clubs, or wherever you hang out to hook up with women. <h1> </h1> I'm just a girl, NOT! I am a GODDESS! And yes, Venus is my real name. My ideas on dating and life in general have been honed by old school players. I live in one of the richest cities in the world, but play in one of the worst cities in the world. I'll teach you things...come play with Venus? 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Anonymous said...

wow....... thanks for the tip..... it took me 10 minutes to read it and going to take me weeks to digest!

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